My trombone teacher was a bold, courageous man who had escaped the dictatorship of Romania to play the trombone with the symphony orchestra. He had high expectations of his students… and I had a lot of self doubt.
Every time he put a new piece on the music stand and asked me to play it, I began by saying, “I can’t play this.”
Finally,he got quite angry and said, “Well of course you can’t right now, what do you expect? It is a brand new piece of music, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that you CAN learn this. So stop whining and start learning.”
I was frightened by his anger, but his words sunk in. By saying and thinking “I can’t do this,” I was stopping myself from learning the instrument I loved so much. I had to ask myself, “Where else in my life am I holding myself back?”
When I shifted my perspective from “I can’t” to “I can learn” – with the trombone, with my classes, with anything new in life – things got a lot easier. I was able to learn the musical pieces much faster,and with more joy, and even the most dreaded classes at school became a bit less daunting.
The way you look at life really does shape your experience of the world around you. What belief’s are shaping your world? What perspective is no longer serving you? What alternative perspectives might open up new horizons for you?
How to Choose the Way You Look at Life:
1.Choose an area of your life that you feel stuck in. Explore the perspective you are currently holding and get a sense of how that perspective is making you feel.
2. Imagine some other ways to look at this situation. Explore as manyperspectives as you can think of.
3. From all the perspectives you can imagine, choose the one that seems most joyful and meaningful to you.
4. Identify an action that you want to take with your new outlook.