February – the fast approaching Valentine’s day and the hearts in all the stores have me thinking about love, human connection and relationships. The way love and romance are portrayed in movies, songs and the media focuses on the drama, the sex, the Big Wedding Day and, of course, the heartbreak.
Contrary to the media portrayal, flowers and chocolate once a year don’t really have a big impact on the success or failure of our relationships. Real loving relationships are based on minute positive interactions. According to relationship expert John Gottman, the way we interact with each other on a daily basis has far more significant impact on the quality of our relationships.

Imagine that each positive gesture, word or action is like a thread. With each thread we offer when we turn towards our significant other, we contribute to the weaving of a beautiful, warm blanket that makes both partners feel comfortable, respected and loved. When we turn against one another, the negative words and actions have the impact of scissors cutting through the blanket.
Renew the spark on a daily basis:
  • Relax together with Mini-Retreats.
  • Write a note of appreciation.
  • Share a positive memory of your relationship with your partner.
  • Laugh together.
  • Ask about your partners needs and offer your support.

We often are not aware of the impact of our words and actions on the quality of our relationships. However with greater awareness we can come to a place of choice and begin to nurture our relationships.

This year instead (or in addition to) chocolate, celebrate Valentine’s day in a special way: with a one-hour partnership coaching session. You will discover your own style in the relationship and learn to focus on the strengths you bring to the partnership.