All too often we let rush, obligation and expectations overshadow the holiday season. Rather than reacting to the many demands that present themselves this time of year, take a moment to ponder the following questions and write down your answers:

  • What is the atmosphere you want to create?
  • With whom do you wish to spend time?
  • How do you want to feel?
  • How do you want to act?

Once you have answered these questions, use these three R’s to make this season a lot less stressful and more enjoyable:


Be selective with your commitments this season. Choose the functions you most want to attend and host according to the atmosphere you want to create this season. Remember, quality not quantity  counts. Enjoy the celebrations you attend and send your regrets to the rest instead of rushing from one function to the next.


Things come into our lives in so many ways. The things you  receive are not always the things  you need, or want. However,  as the saying goes “One person’s trash is another person’s treasure.” You may bring great joy to people in your circle by re-gifting your unwanted treasures.

I once received a set of yard light s as a door prize at a business function. I didn’t have any use for these beautiful fixtures. However, I thought of my friend who owns a bed and breakfast. They fit perfectly in her yard and she and her guests enjoy them very much to this day.

As you think about giving this season, take a look at all the things you don’t need or want anymore. Think about who in your circle would enjoy them. This will save you time, money and you may just find a happy home for your clutter.


To enjoy the season fully, take moments to relax in the midst of it all. It will help you be present and fully enjoy your experience and the pe ople around you.


  • Be a Kid Again: rediscover natural phenomena such as snowflakes with your kids, nephews or nieces or grandchildren. Join in the fun of building a snowman or going for a sledge ride.
  • Forgive Someone: think of someone who offended you,  feel the anger and resentment in your body and breathe into it, feel it slowly diminishing. Recognize that the person who caused you grief is doing her/his best. In your imagination forgive this person, release your resentment and see her/him happy and smiling.
  • Breathe: observe your breath, notice the speed, depth and quality of your breathing. Your breath will naturally slow down and deepen when you pay attention. Enjoy!

For more ideas, check out The Mini-Retreat Solution and join us for the Mini-Retreat Community Call on Dec. 15th.